DEAR DEIDRE: I’M in love with my sister, I mean really in love – we have sex and it’s better than great.
We’re not blood-related, my dad married her mum when we were just into our teens but still, I do know it’s wrong.
It all started when we were 15. We’re pretty much the same age and we lived with her mum and my dad.
We were home alone late one night while our parents were visiting friends.
She had a nightmare and woke feeling scared and unwell.
I sat on her bed just to give her a hug and she went back to sleep in my arms. She cuddled in close and that got me aroused.
The next thing I knew she was lying on top of me, kissing me and hugging me.
Once we’d been there the first time we were desperate to get close again.
It became quite a regular thing when our parents went out, which was most Friday nights.
This went on for three years, then one night she came on strong when I wasn’t prepared.
We went all the way without taking precautions and I made her pregnant that night.
Our parents knew something was wrong but she said she’d got drunk at a party and had sex with some guy she hadn’t seen since.
She had an abortion and that made me feel really sad.
She’s 21 now and there’s no one but me she wants to be with. She is pregnant again, by two months, and, yes, I am the dad.
She’s planning on keeping this baby and wants lots more children with me.
She says we should move to some town far away where no-one knows who we are.
I know what we’re doing is wrong but what else we can do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: When you take the wrong path there’s no easy way forward or back.
I do feel for you both loads but the first thing to say is that having a sexual relationship with your stepsister is legally wrong.
This is because you lived together as part of the same family when you were under 18.
That may sound harsh but the law is there to protect people from hurting themselves or others.
Your sister is suggesting you move somewhere new but you can’t just disappear – these days that is more true than ever.
Don’t build a future on secrets and lies. It wouldn’t be fair to any children you might have, or on you.
As I said, there is no easy way but knowingly living a life that is wrong is a sure way to unhappiness.
Get in touch with The Mix for a safe place to talk this all through and think how best to handle this pregnancy (themix.org.uk 0808 808 4994).
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